I’ll write this from a bloke’s point of view, but I’m pretty certain it’s applicable to a female point of view.

Right, it’s all set up. You’ve plucked up the courage to approach the woman you really really like, and she hasn’t turned you down flat. You’ve met for a drink, it’s gone absolutely fine, and you’ve asked her for a date. Maybe a meal? You know, if you’d like, I’m not pressing you or anything. Just… If you’d like. Maybe.

Hot damn! She said yes! Yowser! Yowser! Yowser! Everybody dance, c’mon clap your hands!

Then the doubts set in. Where do you go, and what do you eat? More importantly, what do you not eat? You’re trying to make a good impression.

So here are some of my hot tips about things to avoid.

Soup. Any kind of soup

Do you tip the bowl away from you, as the etiquette books instruct you? How do you avoid slurping as you sip the soup delicately off the spoon? Is it still a social gaff to lick the spoon? And there’s the danger of splashback onto your nice new clothes.

Spaghetti

I don’t care how adept you are at twirling a fork. It’s very easy to make a complete hash of this and chuck tomato sauce down the nice brand new shirt you bought especially for the occasion. And if you mistime things, and have to suck the ends of the spaghetti into your mouth then wipe sauce off your eyebrows… Oops.

Noodles

Same problem, made worse because you’ll be wielding chopsticks in an attempt to look cosmopolitan.

Anything with a fried egg

Really, what were you thinking of? Joe’s Caff is not the place to go on a hot date.

Anything with a poached egg

Very fashionable these days. Nearly every posh venue you go to offers some form of warm salad with a poached egg on top. Fraught with danger. If you’re a bit nervous (and you should be, this is an important date, OK?) you’ll drop egg yolk down your nice new shirt. Even if you don’t, poached egg whites are a bit slippery. You’ll end up chasing them round the plate, and look like a complete tyro.

Any shellfish you have to eat with your fingers

Shelling prawns is not an impressive sight for a first timer. Mussels? Hmm, a similar problem if you’re being flash and using an empty mussel shell as a pair of forceps to ease the meat out of the other mussels. It may well be what the French do, and it’s by far the best way to do it, but as the mariniere sauce runs down your wrist onto the cuffs of your new shirt, you may have a moment of regret.

Forget lobster. Just forget it. If you absolutely must order it, cover yourself with the tablecloth so you can eat unseen. All that fiddling about with those nifty little long forks, the messing about with the claw crackers… Do not do that.

Ditto undressed crab.

Asparagus

Best eaten with your fingers, but the same problems occur as with mussels. Your shirt really will be looking a bit of a state by now

And come on, asparagus is a bit obvious, isn’t it? You may as well hang a sign round your neck saying ‘Well, fancy a shag later?’ It’s not clever and it’s not big and it’s not funny.

Lay off oysters too, for the same reason. Plus they are absolutely disgusting.

Fish that hasn’t been filleted properly

A good waiter will fillet this at the table for you, but even the good ones can make a nonsense. Explain to me how you can get rid of a mouthful of fish bones and still look cool and dashing.

Anything with lots of raw garlic or raw onion when your companion has ordered plain poached salmon

Definitely a no-no; even a quick snog is out of the question, and as for anything else, well dream on.

Green salad

Sounds blameless, doesn’t it? Oh no, my friends, this is a minefield. All those crispy crunchy leaves that are too big to go in your mouth elegantly, but if you cut them up you’ll look like an arriviste. And the dressing will get on your shirt again.

Anything out of season

You’ll be trying to come across as a caring ecowarrior, and you can’t do that while scoffing raspberries in February. It sends out all the wrong signals.

So what does that leave you with?

Looks like mashed potato. That’s pretty safe.

On the other hand if your hot date makes a fuss about a bit of mess at the dinner table… Well, the signs aren’t that good are they? Think about that.

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